Gifted Articles +

Stephanie S. Tolan
An Open Letter
Change Your Story
Problem of Pain
Can't Do It Wrong
Nature or Nurture
Beginning Brilliance
Young Gifted Child
Gifted Ex-Child
HG Adolescent
Another Dimension

In 2005 Stephanie Tolan created a presentation for what was then the Counseling and Guidance Division of the National Association for Gifted Children, to give adults (counselors, teachers, parents) working with gifted children a method of empowering children (and themselves) to cope with the difficult educational and life experiences they so often encounter. She called the method Story Principle, and titled the presentation, “Change Your Story, Change Your Life.”  A shorter version was printed in Gifted Education Communicator and is available below.

As Tolan began speaking about Story Principle to other audiences—to writers, librarians and teachers outside the field of gifted education—she was continually asked to expand on the idea and to provide practical ways to use Story Principle in daily life.

She decided to take on that project.  The result was the writing of a book also titled Change Your Story, Change Your Life, and the creation of, where Story Principle is introduced, an excerpt can be read or downloaded, and examples are given of “Stories That Work,” from people who have begun putting the principle to work in their lives.  In addition, the book can be downloaded in its entirety as a free PDF file under a Creative Commons license.

Out of Sync, Essays in Giftedness
Stephanie S. Tolan set out as a concerned mother to help her highly gifted son have a school experience that matched his intellectual ability and pace of learning. In the process, she became an advocate for gifted children and, as a founding member of the Columbus Group, played a major part in reshaping thinking about giftedness itself.

Her essay "Is It a Cheetah?" is justly renowned for its power and worldwide influence. Other essays deal with spirituality, the problem of pain, self-esteem and the gifted adult, imagination, and intuition.

Here, collected for the first time, are her essays and talks that are now part of the fabric of the most advanced thinking about gifted people.

An Open Letter to Parents, Teachers and Others: From Parents of an Exceptionally Gifted Child
Guiding the Gifted Child Chapter 13, which I co-wrote with James Webb and Elizabeth Meckstroth in 1982
Change Your Story, Change Your Life
National Association of Gifted Children (NAGC) conference presentation, November 2005
Bibliography of Books about Gifted and Highly Gifted Children
Guiding the Gifted Child
Gifted Psychology Publishing Co., 1982 -- co-author.
The Problem of Pain
Revised, originally published in the Gifted Education Communicator (California Association for the Gifted), Volume 31, No. 4, Fall 2000.
Spirituality and the Highly Gifted Adolescent
Highly Gifted Children, Spring, 2000.
Self-Knowledge, Self-Esteem and the Gifted Adult
Advanced Development Journal, 1999.
You Can't Do It Wrong
Written for the parents of the Davidson Young Scholars Pilot Group June, 1999.
Dabrowski's Over-excitabilities: A Layman's Explanation
February, 1999.
Giftedness - Nature or Nurture
OAGC Review, January 1988.
Phoning Home
OAGC Review, Spring 1997.
Is it a Cheetah?
Highly Gifted Child, Spring, 1997 (Reprinted in OAGC Newsletter, Fall, 1996).
Beginning Brilliance
Chapter 11 in The Young Gifted Child: Potential and Promise, Joan Smutny, editor, Hampton Press, Inc., 1996.
Discovering the Gifted Ex-Child
Roeper Review, August 1994. (Reprinted in Journal of Advanced Development, 1996).
Response to the Federal Report on Gifted Education
Roeper Review, June/July 1994.
Giftedness as Asynchronous Development
Tip Network News, Spring 1994.
Ridi Pagliaccio
The Day My Father Died: Women Share Their Stories of Love, Loss, and Life, Running Press 1994.
Psychomotor Overexcitability: An Expanded Perspective
Journal of Advanced Development, 1994.
Parents vs. Theorists
Roeper Review, August 1992.
Sex and the Highly Gifted Adolescent
Highly Gifted Children, Spring 1992.
Only a Parent
Understanding Our Gifted, Jan-Feb. 1992.
School Reform, or How to Make Democracy a Dirty Word
Highly Gifted Children, Fall 1991, Spring 1992.
Kids, Books and World Peace
USIBBY Newsletter, Fall 1991.
Curiosity Cancelled
The Bookmark, New York State Libraries, Fall, 1990.
Helping Your Highly Gifted Child
ERIC Flyer File on Gifted Students, 1990.
Eventually, There’s College
Highly Gifted Children, Spring, 1990.
From Production to Nurturing, Hollingworth and Parental Perspectives Today
Roeper Review, March 1990.
Special Problems of the Highly Gifted
Understanding Our Gifted, May 1989.
The Reading Room
(regular column) Understanding Our Gifted, 1988-1995.
Happily Ever After
The New Advocate, December 1988.
Parents and 'Professionals', A Question of Priorities
Roeper Review, February 1987.
A Writer's Response
Horn Book, May/June 1986.
Stuck in Another Dimension: The Exceptionally Gifted Child in School
Gifted Child Today, Nov./Dec. 1985.
Moral Imperatives
The Advocate, Spring,1985
Stop Accepting, Start Demanding!
The Gifted Child Monthly, January 1985.

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